February 14, 2006

Mmmm, Candy Hearts

Filed under: Rants,You Suck — Katrina @ 3:40 am

And now, for a loving and saintly edition of…


What sucks, on this St. Valentine’s Day? The holiday itself? Nah. Frankly, I think it’s cool we pay attention to at least a handful of saints’ feast days. So what’s my beef now? What sucks? Simple. What sucks are relationships themselves.

You know, I’m not sure how great the whole thing is at all. As emotionally and spiritually and physically fulfilling this shit may be, it’ll also destroy you in every one of those ways. The deeper into it you get, the deeper it cuts into you. Feeds depression. Ruins your pride and self-esteem. The scars never fully heal.

And, shit, that’s just one part. Not to mention much of the anguish goes on during the run of a relationship or whatever. Constantly trying to make the other person happy (to no avail, of course). Worrying about what the other thinks and does. Wanting things from each other. Nagging each other. Stupid fights. Stupid worries and expectations. The constant pissing contest with the sole intention of hurting each other as much as possible.

But idiots just keep wanting to go back for more. Never stop to realize that, hey, being single rules! Everyone is instilled with this horrible fear of being alone that they don’t stop to think that being alone ain’t all that bad. I’ve had several friends who just couldn’t stand the idea of not being in a relationship. One had gone from one relationship right into another for several years. At one point, she was considering leaving her current boyfriend (with whom she didn’t have a very good relationship) for this other guy (who treated her even worse), and couldn’t decide whom to go with. So I told her “How about neither? It sounds like they both suck.” Heh. Poor girl. The expression on her face when I said that, you’d have thought I’d just advised her to kill herself! It was somewhere between sad and amusing to watch how she delicately juggled that idea, looking somewhat saddened, confused, and terrified at the concept. It was like she couldn’t understand the concept at all. Well, last I knew, she went back with her standing boyfriend, despite the shitty climate between them. I haven’t seen her in three years so I don’t know what ever happened with that, but either way, that is pretty fucking pathetic.

And she’s only one of several people I’ve known who are like that. Another friend has been with the same guy as long as I’ve known her, yet they have an open relationship, which has basically opened her up to more relationship bullshit from several people! I mean, damn, it’s one thing dealing with this crap with one person but going for several?! Wow. People tend to be stupid in general, but they are really, really even more so when it comes to love and sex and all that crap. And I could go on and on! Girls and guys alike, they whine and whine and whine wishing they had someone. Honestly, they may as well be whining and wishing they were receiving sulfuric acid enemas, because that just might be less painful.

In fact, being single is an extreme load off. Single does NOT mean looking! Instead, it means having to worry about only yourself. I mean, there’s obligations to other people as well, sure, but nothing as intimate as a significant other. No one nagging you. No one to please every time greeting card companies invent another holiday. No one to talk to on the phone 17 hours a day, pretty well preventing you from doing, well, anything else. No idiotic phone conversations (anyone who does the “you hang up first” shit should be set on fire!). No hurtful arguments. None of that horrible crap! You do things your way. You make your own decisions and stick by them. You don’t have to compromise shit.

Meanwhile, a happily single me shall sit back and enjoy my Valentine’s Day conversation hearts. Make fun of the silly sayings and eat them up. All by myself. Just the way I like it.


  1. Wow, you get the award for most bitter Valentine’s Day post. :scared:

    Comment by KPalicz — February 14, 2006 @ 6:48 pm

  2. Yay!!! 😀

    Comment by Katrina — February 14, 2006 @ 6:58 pm

  3. “The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.”


    Comment by scott davidson — February 14, 2006 @ 9:33 pm

  4. Nice post, Kat, even if I don’t agree with all of it. Just one thing, though… in the third paragraph up from the bottom, are you implying that married people have a good reason for staying in abusive relationships? :dubious:

    Comment by Anduwaithe — February 14, 2006 @ 10:03 pm

  5. Nah, didn’t mean to imply that. Those were sort of separate thoughts.

    Comment by Katrina — February 14, 2006 @ 10:54 pm

  6. […] Your spouse or girlfriend or boyfriend left you? Quit being a piece of shit and you’ll get another some day. A better one, perhaps! If not, talk to the Mmmm, Candy Hearts. […]

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