Never Too Late But Should Be!
Added: January 21, 2006

Also posted on NYRA forums on January 25, 2005. Originally posted in November 2004 on a site that is now gone.

I just don't understand it. There is all this research being done so post-menopausal women can get pregnant. This way, they can spend all of their good childbearing years doing whatever else and finally can have a baby after they've spent a few decades doing things for themselves. My big question for these women and the researchers enabling this...WHY?!?!?!

Now, I'm about the most non-ageist person you'll ever meet, but this whole thing just burns me up. Not too long ago, a 57-year-old woman gave birth to twins she conceived artificially. Let's look at this another way. A 57-year-old woman needs to wake up at all hours to tend to two screaming little ones. In a year and a half, they'll be running around, in the opposite direction of each other, and I just hope her knees are feeling okay enough to be able to chase after them. How about being 75 years old when they graduate from high school? That's just one year younger than the average life expectancy in the United States. How will she feel when she realizes there is a VERY good chance she will never see her grandchildren? She already passed through her fertile years completely ignoring her natural maternal urges.

Then let's think about the kids in all this. How much of a mother would they even have? They'd probably want to play outside with her, but she'd get tired so quickly. Also, generations change considerably over time. How much would she even be able to relate to these kids? Parents in their 30s and 40s have enough trouble relating to their kids. Can you imagine one in her 60s? Also, there's a good chance this woman got herself into this thinking "Oh, it would be nice to have a couple of babies." Well, guess what. They'll only be babies for the first two years. You now have two people you need to guide through life. The oughts are a far and away different time to be children than the 1950s! Just because you are so much older does not mean you'll make a better mother. Being further from your own youth does make a difference. Also, people learn to be parents from their own parents in some way or another. Yet these twins are without a father (from what I gather) and their mother probably would not be able to make proper time for them. She'd be more a grandmother to them. This sort of thing is true in my own family. My grandfather was born when his father was 51. Grandma was telling me just last night he never felt like he had a father, and this had effects on his relationship with my aunt, uncle, and dad. A cousin-once-removed has the same situation and the same problem. It is a real insult to these kids that they were so clearly a back-burner priority.

Another thing bothers me about this. Why do so many people go into the medical field and waste their time, efforts, and research money on such pointless ventures? Aren't there enough people in the world? Also, I'm sick of so much tampering with the most beautiful process in life: procreation. God allows us to conceive via a very pleasing process called sexual intercourse, yet somehow we find ways to even make THAT obsolete! Also, we females are allotted anywhere from thirty to forty years in which conception is possible, although only about fifteen of them are really good. Use them then! If not, having children is not a necessity. If you want kids so badly, make your life fit for them when you can make them naturally, and for God's sake, let them have two parents! Children are not experiments. They are not your property. They are not your "fertility trophies". They are a privilege and above all a responsibility. You have no "right" to children. If you've hit menopause and are childless, then you weren't meant to be a mother. You spent your life doing something else you were meant for. God gave you a certain number of years, and it's your own fault if you've spent them on things that could very well be done afterward. When you could have had children naturally, you kept putting it off, but now that it's too late, all of a sudden you're begging for a second chance. You just want it because you can't have it. Waiting until you're financially stable enough? There's no guarantee you will be "stable enough" when you're so old. It means nothing if you're having them just for the sake of having them. Those situations just lead to little ones you pay attention to at first, and then you realize you brought humans into the world who want and need things like everyone else. You lose your interest in them, ignore them, and they reach puberty and are realizing how harsh the world is, yet you gave up on your parenting duties long ago, and that's how we have the more miserable and suicidal people in our society. You are doing nobody a favor through this artificial conception. Stop screwing with nature. You are not so special. You deserve nothing. And, medical professionals working on this, can't you just work on curing cancer or AIDS and quit this other crap? I don't know if you noticed, but it's not exactly a great thing you're doing. And for the news media, stop acting like this is such a miracle breakthrough. Just because a few medical scientists have let nature-tampering powers go to their heads does not make this a great service to society or even anything people should be rushing right out and doing. It is wrong. See it for what it is. These people are not heroic. They just have too much money and too much pride. They're just selfish. End of story.


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